← Forgiveness
Then Peter came and said to him, "Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Until seven times?" Jesus said to him, "I don't tell you until seven times, but until seventy times seven."
Matthew 18:21–22

Seventy times seven

Peter thinks he is being generous. Seven is a complete number; seven pardons is a lot. And Jesus takes the number and breaks it, because forgiveness that keeps count is not forgiveness yet, only a ledger with a generous limit.

Four hundred and ninety is a way of saying: stop counting. The practice of forgiveness is a settled disposition rather than a series of decisions, a mind that has decided in advance not to carry the weight. That mind is lighter. It sleeps better. It fasts more easily, because resentment is a kind of hunger too.

Practice

When a grievance surfaces today, notice the counting — "again," "how many times." Then say inwardly: "No count." Let the tally go.